The Sexperts™ answer your dating and sex questions
Dear Sexperts™:
She wants to know how many women I've slept with. Do I tell her?
Marcus from Chicago
Dear Marcus:
No. You can't win that game. Tell her it's not a numbers game to
you, and then fully disclose any STDs.
Dear Sexperts™:
I swear my girl needs a good poking every couple of days or
she's a bitch. Am I a wishful thinking neanderthal, or could I be on
to something?
Anonymous, Raleigh
Yes, yes, yes. We know lots of women with that syndrome! The
phrase "she just needs a good _______" had to come from
somewhere, right? It's a tough job, but somebody's got to do it!
Dear Sexperts:™
I was with a smokin babe I really like, but I ended up with a limp
dick. I don't understand, this has never happened to me before.
How can I prevent this when I don't know why it happened? We
were drunk and I think I was getting sick.
Rick, Miami
Rick:
You are on to something with being drunk and feeling sick.
Either of those can cause a mission to abort. If it happens when
you are sober and healthy, it's time to call in a doctor or at least a
different woman.
Dear Sexperts:™
What's the right way to go down on a woman?
Paul, West Palm Beach
Paul:
There's no wrong way! But we do know of a way that will drive
her crazy. We call it "the Nunez" in deference to our friend who
seems to have it going on! Go slowly, do figure eights around the
button and hole, change the pace once in a while, but stay the
course when her breathing gets quick and heavy!
Dear Sexperts:™
How long am I supposed to give a woman when I am eating her?
Jim of Minneapolis
Jim:
As long as it takes! Seriously. We know it can take awhile
sometimes, but let's hope she feels indebted! A woman with half
a brain will keep you in tune with how you are doing with oohs
and ahhs, but if you aren't sure, just ask "hey baby, should I keep
going or are you ready for the big one?" She'll tell you.
Dear Sexperts™:
My girlfriend won't forgive me for seeing another woman. Thing
is, we were on a break. How do I win her trust back?
Kevin of Detroit.
Oh Kevin:
When a woman wants a break from a relationship, or agrees to
one, she is expecting or hoping you will spend the time thinking
about her and missing her! In her dreams, you will suddenly
appear on her door step with flowers and chocolate apologizing
profusely (for anything )-- preferably in song. You, on the other
hand, the normal guy that you are, went on with life and got a
little somethin' somethin'. Your girlfriend is hurt and angry. Give
her love and time, and she will eventually come around. That is,
unless you are either still seeing the other woman or wishing you
were. If either is the case, you need to end the relationship with
your girlfriend. You obviously are not in love, and shouldn't put
either of you through any more roller-coaster dips. We say, give
her 4 months. If you are still fighting, let fly.
Dear Sexperts™:
My fiance and I are living with my in-laws. She doesn't want to
have sex with me in their house. She claims she doesn't feel
right doing it at her parents'. We will be moving soon, but I am
wondering if I should take that step. I am thinking she might be
stingy with sex. What do you think?
Jason, New Jersey
Jason:
Your hunch is right. She is giving you an excuse, not a reason.
She doesn't want to have sex with you and has a handy excuse.
Trust us. When a woman wants to have sex with you, she'll find a
way. If you marry her, it will be a long tour of duty.
Dear Sexpert™:
I am dating this single mom. The dad is somewhat out of the
picture. I am not rich, but I feel I should take care of her and buy
her and her son gifts and take them out to dinner. Just the other
day she said to me that she wants me to be her son's father. I
really like her, but I don't want to marry her. She is high-
maintenance and is moodier than I want to live with. On the other-
hand, she is gorgeous and her son and I have bonded. Is it too
late to move on? Should I stay with her for the sake of the kid?
Mike of Atlanta
Mike:
We admire that you want to do the right thing and are thinking of
the son, but marrying her is not the right thing for you. Don't
marry someone you have doubts about -- and certainly don't
marry someone you describe as "high-maintenance and moodier
than you want." She is showing you her best behavior now. Can
you imagine what moody and high maintenance look like after
she relaxes, lets her guard down, and realizes that you aren't
perfect?
Dear Sexpert™:
I am dating a professional. The sex is rockin'!! However, she
travels a lot and I can never count on her to be around. She is
everything I want in a woman. She is financially secure, beautiful,
great body, voracious sexual appetite, and terrific cook. But I feel
like her play thing. She never talks about the future and doesn't
invite me on trips or to company events. Am I just a play thing?
Alberto, Riverside California
Alberto:
You say "play thing" like it's a bad thing? We say, sit back, relax
and enjoy the ride. If you don't feel valued, let her know what
you need, whether that is more time or more compliments. If she
is a professional woman, she is probably skilled at solving
problems and fixing things.
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